The Small Joys of Life

This June, I am attempting to show up for myself. I’m not going to sugarcoat it at all. It was hard. It is hard.

Why do you do it then? You may ask..

So that the little girl who dreams fifty years later, knows that no dream is time bound. No boundary she draws can be squashed without her permission. She can be wise, strong, sensitive and pathbreaking at the same time.

So she never needs to feel guilt.

A large chunk of women in their mid thirties are grappled with far more responsibility, judgement and resentment than their male counterparts. To be up against them is not the problem, because every woman knows she’s inherently more powerful than a man. To navigate the abyss called society whilst being the fairer sex, needs a combination of tact, wit and sheer luck. Everything is rigged in their favour, everything is a hundred times harder for us, and yet we are, accepting defeat generation after generation, gulping it down with copious amounts of guilt. Till when?

Will the world collapse if we stand up for ourself? Will our people pleasing nature suddenly wilt in the shadow of our momentary ruthlessness? No.

A woman is created to nurture. Nurture life, nurture dreams, nurture love, nurture the Earth, make it stronger with her nature, not wet it with her silent tears.

So ladies, if you set out to carve something for yourself- and you have, be sure to bask in its glory. I have no understanding of how success weighs differently for men and women, but I have observed that women seldom pat their own back. A small, backhanded compliment is all it takes to elate women. But, why?!!!! Stand there, take full credit and don’t reciprocate a meaningless compliment.

The other rather astounding nature I’ve observed across successful women across the realm, is how easily they’re willing to give it all up. But why? You worked so hard. You continue to put in more hours, especially when no one is watching, then why are you so hell bent on giving it up?

Oh, and the absolute worst is when one woman’s success is another woman’s misery!! Arreeeee! You being a phenomenal stay at home mother is no less than being a CEO of an MNC. It’s all in what you perceive as successful. If you demean your efforts, no fiber of your being will also look back with a smile.

You’re here. You’re living, breathing, roaring, don’t let anyone dim your light.

You’re stronger than you think. Invisible boundaries needn’t be broken down. You don’t owe anyone any explanation. Not your own family. Draw from Nature, she’s female and is killing it, isn’t she? Showing her wrath when she’s pushed, caring when she’s loved.

Hopefully, instead of digging your nails into yourself to suppress your words, or silencing your thoughts to prevent your brain from exploding, you’ll fight a tear and speak your mind.

Here’s hoping. ❤️